September 4, 2008 - You'll Be In Our Hearts
My life's path connected with Cindy Honey on an AOL public message board where a diverse group of people were discussing a variety of social and world issues. Several of those board members became close friends and remain in contact to this day. Cindy Honey was one of those friends.
"Bridge" was the signature Cindy used on that message board and in e-mails. I later learned the meaning behind the characters and numbers of her [original] screen name through an e-mail she sent me after months of casual conversation.
Cindy Honey had been a close friend of mine for nearly 10 years. For several years our Instant Message boxes were active on a regular basis. We had talked frequently while working online on separate, unrelated projects. Sometimes when our work was finished, we'd travel to different parts of the world - visiting other places via the World Wide Web - sharp images portraying people and landscapes in distant places. Cindy enjoyed photography - we'd discuss cameras and such - she knew more about photography than I did - we had fun sharing our mutual appreciation for images captured through the lens of a camera.
Sometimes my wife Tammy would be sitting at my computer when Cindy sent an Instant Message. They talked numerous times through the years and shared several laughs together - more than once their laughter was at my expense!
It wasn't uncommon for Cindy to be writing me an e-mail at the exact time I was sitting in Kentucky finishing an e-mail to send her. I'd receive an Instant Message that read, "You've got new mail!"
I'd reply, "You'd better check YOUR mailbox!"
I'd then receive that unmistakable, "BAWHAAAA!!!!!"
Several years ago I left AOL briefly and signed up with another ISP. It was a bit of an adjustment for all of us - everyone stayed in contact through e-mail - yet - it was different. After a few months, Cindy quietly setup a screen name and password through her own AOL account for me to use when she wasn't online.
"Now" she said, "You can visit with our online friends easier, post on the message board again, and post more often!"
Once again, I was hooked on the easier communication between friends - a couple of weeks later I opened another AOL account.
Cindy Honey touched our hearts in ways they had never been touched before. If a person has one or two real friends in life they are blessed. When Cindy Honey was one of those friends, your blessings were two-fold. I had the good fortune to briefly meet a few of her friends when I worked on a special web project with her.
Cindy and I agreed that we would always stay in touch - no matter what. The friends she had introduced me to a few years ago, became a lifeline that provided a connection for timely information when Cindy's health worsened and direct contact became increasingly difficult. For providing that line of communication, so that I could pass information along to her many friends around the country, I wish to say "Thank You".
It's difficult to understand why some things happen in life. However, God placed Cindy in our lives for a reason and I'm very grateful for the time we had together as friends. Cindy's life had purpose. She devoted her life to making a difference. She was genuine. She cared about people. Wisdom guided her actions when coordinating help for those that were less fortunate.
Cindy Honey was blessed with an incredible sense of humor to help balance her stressful, demanding career. The world can become too serious at times. She had a gift for weaving moments of joy and laughter into her life and shared her gift with others.
The many facets of Cindy's personality formed a diamond that reflected a person of highest standards and integrity unto the end. She loved her cousin and the time they would spent together. She loved visiting with her four legged pals. She introduced me to her special friend Jim once via the Internet through an IM. Cindy loved her friends - enjoyed going to movies - had an appreciation for theater - good music - the list goes on. Cindy always took her cyber-space friends with her when traveling - every screen name, gently tucked away inside her laptop. Real friends - only a few clicks of a button away.
Our paths weren't meant to cross in real life - it wasn't part of the design for us to meet face to face. It just seemed important to me for those that knew Cindy Honey in Fort Worth, Dallas, Washington D.C., and beyond, to realize the impact she had on so many lives across the country. May the love expressed in this humble writing offer comfort and strength to those that miss her most - those who were at her side in real life. We, in her "cyber-world" will never be the same.
To my dear friend ~Cindy/Bridge ~ when I left AOL for that brief time years ago and changed ISPs - you sent me a wav. file of Phil Collins ~ You'll Be In My Heart
Mark McKinley - Lexington, KY
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Cindy Honey was executive director of the
Metro Dallas Homeless Alliance